We have been doing this divorce thing for a little over a year now and finally feel like we have the hang of it. That is a temporary feeling, I am sure. I learned two big things the last year. One is really just awareness; oh, I am really happy now and didn’t realize how unhappy I was. The second is that even though I don’t see my kids every day anymore I actually feel like have more time with them now in my post-married life and it is really dedicated time. For me that has to do with getting a lot of the everyday stuff done on my “off days” and a lot of it has to do with being aware that your time is limited.
It took me until the snow flew last year to figure out that trying to plan anything more than something basic on Friday night was a lesson in disaster. (Friday night my only consistent weekend night with the boys.) Meltdowns in public, tears in the car, hunger pains all make a night off from cooking and a glass of red wine really crappy. Thank God for frozen pizza and the Red Box. I have learned that the dedicated time with the boys doesn’t have to be anything too far above and beyond our normal nights together. Eating dinner in front of a movie with a happy Mom is just fine with them and me.
This is my favorite frozen pizza made with just a few good ingredients. It is a gem in the freezer case.