This wellness word is bugging me-not like an irritating bug, just something that I keep coming back to. It is top of mind with this BC thing rapidly moving behind me and knowing that I have something to give others who are or will be going through this cancer thing. I have mixed up a bunch of definitions of wellness from different sources.
Making choices toward a healthy, happy and fulfilling life. A deliberate quest.
When I see and hear about wellness it is mostly in reference to diet and exercise and for sure those are part of the process of being well and for sure people need to make those things a priority but I think the process of being well actually starts with becoming happy. It is also a journey that you have to want to travel.
A year ago I moved into my own place. The day I moved, after my “muscle” had got all the furniture up two flights and everyone had gone, I was in my boy’s room making their beds. The sun was streaming in, the noise on the street outside seemed familiar and I felt safe. It was an overwhelming sense that I had done the right thing and that everything was going to be just fine. That feeling, that relief and the joy that I would start to feel almost everyday, was so new. And those feelings felt so incredibly worthwhile after the struggle it took to get there.
I think that happiness was my missing wellness link. I had the eating, exercise thing down well I was productive at work, my kids were healthy and we had a great house. What I didn’t have was the understanding of just how unhappy I was and how that was affecting every interaction, every moment of my life. It wasn’t like I was crying into my coffee everyday, it was just something hanging over my eyeballs that was muddling up my outlook, making me stuck. The crazy thing is that I didn’t have the whole picture of just how unhappy I was until after I was on my own.
I am not saying “You are unhappy! Go get divorced!” That is not it at all. This is my example and it isn’t that simple and it isn’t the only thing that made me realize the importance of happiness. All I am saying is that I think the happiness factor is a big part of being well, and maybe the first step to over all wellness. Maybe it would help us all to be more happy. Not sure how we do that-it is pretty personal-but I think maybe trying to be more deliberate about being happy would be a first step.