We are so hard on ourselves! This time of year, especially. I often wonder why we don’t spread Christmas out more-to make the “to do time line” a little longer, to maybe ease some of the pressure of getting everything done. Maybe it is just me but come the end of January I am always looking for things to do. A kid’s Christmas concert would be great in January. I would love to send cards in January when I have more time to write them. I would probably try out a new recipe for the cookie tray in January. Just taking one of my traditions and moving it to some other time would help so much! But we don’t mess with tradition.
Traditions are tricky. They become these monumental things in our lives that are all at once great and stressful. There is a lot of pressure to do things the same every year. Don’t mess with the Thanksgiving dinner! We always do Christmas Eve at Mom’s house! We always have a holiday party! What do you mean you aren’t coming for Christmas dinner? And what about when families change? When they split up or multiply and the old traditions are thrown totally out the window? That’s when things really get hairy.
So maybe these traditions need a shot of perspective. Maybe it would do us good to change things up just a little so that we get used to the idea that traditions can be reinvented and that it is ok when they are. And maybe taking a tradition or two out of the picture would make the whole holiday a little less crazy. Maybe it would let us off the hook a bit and give us a break. Maybe it would make it easier to just enjoy.