I am pretty sure that at least a billion people have said that being a mother is the hardest job you can ever have. Harder than the hardest job you can possibly think of, I am sure. The thing about being a Mom is that your kids are your legacy, they reflect you, you reflect them. I see my eyes in their eyes and in my eyes, theirs. They are what will be left of me when I am gone and they will pass me on for generations. They will become their own people but really I will always be able to see myself in them and eventually they will see me in themselves.
The thing about being a Mom is that most of the time it isn’t anything special that you do that is so great, it is just about being you, letting them see the crap and the greatness and letting them take you in. It is about always having an ear open and being aware of the clues that tell you they need you. It is about not being perfect and making mistakes and about giving a foundation that they can come back to, physically or mentally throughout their lives. It is about being the safe place, always available and never giving up, no matter what they do. Noticing and savoring, grieving and belly ache laughing and mad cap playing. It is a big job. The best one.
So to all the women who Mom my kids, the women who have Mommed me, to the Moms that have recently left to become sun dogs or silent smiles, your Momming has not ended , and especially to my own Mom, who shines so brightly in my eyes and the eyes of my children. Happy Mother’s Day.